Why should aspiring pick-up artists invest in shoes?

One of the first steps in becoming more successful with women is to take care of your appearance. You don’t need to be a male model. You don’t even need to spend an incredibly large sums of money on your wardrobe. But you definitely should look ready to play the role.

If you are new to the game, you probably need to spend lots of money on grooming and fashion. You don’t need to go all the way before going out and meeting women, but there are some areas that can help you a lot. You need to prioritize your wardrobe requirements. Well, one of the first items that you can invest in is your footwear.

Why shoes are important? Because:

1. It is widely known that the shoes are one of the first things that a woman notice when meeting a new guy. Women love shoes, and the men who are wearing a nice pair of shoes can get a head start.
2. It is very likely that you are not physically fit now. In order to be more successful in the game (and even in life), you need to take care of your body. It means that you may have to shed some pounds, or gain some muscle. When I started this path on July 2007, my waistline was 36. Now it is 32. Imagine that if I had invested lots of money in designer jeans, I had to donate them to thrift stores, or try to sell them on ebay. However, when it comes to shoes, I have been wearing size 10 shoes, like forever now! It’s a part of your body that doesn’t change, so invest in it early on, when you are not at your best physically.
3. You may know about the peacocking theory. Basically it says that you need to wear some interesting items, so if a woman is interested in you, she will have a reason (or an excuse!) to talk to you. Well, guess what? It is not that easy for every one to wear loud blazers or tight pants. However, wearing an interesting pair of shoes is much easier. And when you remember that the shoes are one of the first things that women notice, that is an excellent idea.

How to enter a public venue

Whether you are going to a bar or nightclub to pick up girls, or you are on a first date to a restaurant, or you are just going to a gathering of your social circle with some girls that you may want to date later, the way you enter the venue can make or break the deal.

Make sure that you know the place beforehand. It means going there alone or with some friends a couple of nights before the big night. It is always a good idea to have some places that you frequent, so you can invite chicks there. Because everybody will recognize you, it gives you a great deal of social proof.

Show confidence. A big smile is going to open many doors. If you are the type of person who cannot just simply smile with no reason, remember that you are coming from the outside. Just pretend that something humorous has just happened. It actually has another benefit too: You can start your storytelling much easier.

Use strong body language. Keep you head high. Look straight ahead. Do NOT slouch. Walk slowly, but with purpose. Make eye contact with everyone, and not only with the girl. (Notice that I’m saying make EYE contact, and not stare!)

Speak with an appropriate volume! Do not shout, do not whisper.

Be respectful to the people in the venue. If you are asking a waitress for your table, be courteous and thank her for helping you out.

Your Ideal Bachelor Pad

Your bachelor pad is the destination of your journey. However, taking care of your pad should start early in the process. The main reason is that a place that is ready to host a woman will boost your confidence. If your apartment is dirty, messy, and full of empty beer cans, you will know it deep down in your unconsciousness that you can't take anyone there tonight, and you won’t be confident enough to approach women, or will not exhibit enough confidence in interacting with them. Also, you apartment can be your ultimate weapon, your ultimate tool for seduction, and for overcoming the final resistance in a woman. So early in the process, when your game is not that strong, it can help you get laid buddy.

Here are some basic ideas that you need to take care of, before trying to invite any lady to your place:

1- Clean, and tidy: This should go without saying. Remember that it does not to be like a room in a luxury hotel, because it should feel like home, she shouldn’t feel that you have spent hours cleaning it just before you go out, but try to keep things in order, and clean it as much as you can.

2- Display family photos: Put them in nice and beautiful frames, and put them on display around the house. Obviously, your ex-girlfriend is not a family member, and there should be NO PICTURE OF HER ANYWHERE IN YOUR HOUSE. Other than mom and dad, it is a good idea to display pictures of the children (if you have a cute niece or nephew under age 10, their pictures are gold mines!), family pets, an interesting uncle or aunt that has a funny / deep / exciting story, and siblings.

3- Make sure that you have an extra clean hand and face towel in your bathroom. This means that you need at least two towels, one for yourself, and one for the guest (the chick).

4- A descent media system: You don’t need a cutting edge geeky media center that looks like a spaceship, but a good TV, the ability of streaming music, and showing them a movie is essential. So invest in a set of basic, but relatively high-quality audio-visual system. After all this part will also benefit yourself, and your guy friends (and you will need a lot of them, so treat them well).

5- A nice bathrobe hung in your bathroom can give you an edge. ;)

6- Make sure that your place smells nice. Buy an air freshener, and use it.

7- Make sure that you always have some nice drinks to offer her. You can actually spend on more high-quality and more expensive liquor for your possible dates. Just keep them at home. You can buy cheaper alternatives for yourself, for when you are watching the game alone. Keep the good ones for ladies.

8- Have condoms: Do I need to explain?

9- Have toilet paper!! And it should be in its designed place, not just beside the sink!!

10- Have something interesting to show her. More on this later.

Do you have any other idea that every guy should consider in order to make his place chick-friendly? Share your comments.

Seduction Post

Men are always puzzled by women. Even the best seducers among us admit that they cannot always get it. Once a while, we are lucky enough to find a specific behavior that can relate to the mysterious traits of women. Then we all try to copy it and use it as much as possible. And there come the pickup lines, gestures, openers, etc. But like germs to an antibiotic, women will soon become immune to our rehearsed behaviors.

What makes the problem even harder to overcome is the fact that there is not a single type of women out there. Contrary to what is taught in the self-help relationship books, women are actually diverse. That’s why we cannot just pick a set of rules and apply it to all women. We need to develop new methods, think about new tactics, and come up with innovative ideas to seduce women (or even to keep them seduced).

I must say that I wasn’t very successful around women. The great point about seduction is that it is an art. It can be learned, like the way we learn to play a musical instrument. And I have learned a lot from the masters. I will introduce them to you in this blog. You are definitely encouraged to go and try their stuff, and learn from them. I will review their methods, so you can see which one matches your conditions. These techniques made a frustrated guy (me, 2 years ago) into an average seducer (me, 1 year ago).

Back to our music analogy. While you can learn how to play an instrument, by going to a class, or using some teaching material at home, but in order to continue enjoying that instrument, you need to find new music sheets, or even better, make our own music. That’s the main goal of this blog. I will bring you new ideas for the game of seduction. They will be diverse, and probably not in a specific order for now, but trust me, these are the things that turned me from an average seducer into a modern day Casanova. So let the fun begin!